No help for singles – 2

I want to clarify some things about my last post: https://thefloatyboaty.wordpress.com/2015/02/17/no-help-for-singles/

It wasn’t a pity-party.  The post was to demonstrate the missing instruction and teaching that those with the experience – those who are older – should be providing.  If the people who are family through Jesus do not act like family, do not show love for one another as family, what is the difference between Christians and heathens?

A new commandment I give unto you, that you love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another.  By this shall all men know that ye are my disciples, if ye have love one to another.    –  John 13:34-35

Beloved, if God so loved us, we ought also to love one another. No man hath seen God at any time. If we love one another, God dwelleth in us, and his love is perfected in us.    –  1 John 4:11-12

Where is this love?  Is there someone who cares about those who need help?  Everyone starts out single; no one starts out married.  So, shouldn’t there be some real and meaningful help for everyone?

I’m not complaining.  It is what it is.  However, there is something that can still be done – help each other and those whom have not reached the stages in life that you already have.  I have been through these stages and problems and am giving my report on the situation.  I have also given a way to resolve this issue.  It is time for others to step in and help or there be a continual downward spiral into the abyss that the heathens have already entered and learned the hard way.

For more reading:  http://justinmcampbell.net/2015/02/18/the-protestant-celibacy-problem/

No help for singles

No one helps the single people.  Pre-posts: http://justinmcampbell.net/2014/06/18/responding-to-platitudes/, http://justinmcampbell.net/2014/09/10/the-sermon-on-singleness-you-wont-hear/

As a completely single Christian guy, there are two problems I face:

  1. Properly living as a Christian single person.
  2. Finding a proper Christian girl to marry.

How does one properly live a single life?  It’s generally summed up as “don’t have sex, read the Bible more, and pray more.”  Sometimes they might say “get a hobby”, but it’s hard to get a hobby by yourself.  Sure you can do a hobby by yourself, but first you have to start the hobby – at the very minimum, instructions are needed.  Also, what hobby?  Choices have to be presented for one to make a choice.  You also have to be capable of doing the hobby – no legs means no hiking or playing paintball.  For me personally, it would be nice if they suggested a hobby that they actively participate in.  What about the times when you can’t do your hobby or taking a break, or the times you are with strangers or friends, or the many other possibilities?

What if you just can’t live single without constantly stumbling?  Well, there is marriage.  So, how do I find a girl to marry?  Well, you talk to them and get to know them.  If you like each other then you date and get to know each other better before asking her to marry you.  So, you have to wait an unspecified amount of time before I can ask her?  Before that, I could end up in the friend-zone before I even have a chance?  Wait, even before that, where are they?  The ones I would have liked to marry are already married or dating, and not all the girls are in a position that I could even begin a conversation with them.  Like the ones who leave soon after the end of a church service.  “Before you leave, would you like to go on a date?”  Does anyone make a suggestion, or introduction?  It sounds like instructions on getting hit by an asteroid.

Where’s the brotherly and sisterly love that is supposed to be shown?  If no one helps me, don’t expect me to play by, or even know, the “rules”.

Elliot Rodger, The

A few months ago, a young man by the name of Elliot Rodger killed some modern American girls.  Then came the flurry of reasons.  What would make him detonate with no warning?  Was it the medication?  Was it some mental illness?  Was it his home life?  Some problem with his father, or mother?  Do the victims carry the blame?

 

Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he shall not depart from it.  — Proverbs 22:6

His victim’s parents, and his parents, all carry the blame.  The victim’s parents could have taught them how to behave.  His parents could have taught him how to live.  The average American child does not have parents – they have progenitors.  This is why the tragedy occurred, and will occur again.

Marriage Is Not An Accident

Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you:  – Matthew 7:7

And I say unto you, Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you.  – Luke 11:9

Marriage will never be an accident: It Probably Isn’t Going To “Just Happen”.

If you want a wife, marriage, kids, or whatever, you have to go and find it – very, very few people are hit by asteroids.