Marriage Is Not An Accident

Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you:  – Matthew 7:7

And I say unto you, Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you.  – Luke 11:9

Marriage will never be an accident: It Probably Isn’t Going To “Just Happen”.

If you want a wife, marriage, kids, or whatever, you have to go and find it – very, very few people are hit by asteroids.

Stand firm

I’d like to start by referencing a post by Justin Campbell:  Quit Being Nice

A man needs to discover what he believes and stand firm for it.  Who a person is nor what a person is should affect his stance.

Every masculine man desires to have a domain of his own.  This can cause his demise if he does not rule his domain.  Any leniency creates momentum in the wrong direction.  A house without a firm foundation will not stay when a storm comes.

It is masculine men that create the structure of the society that they live in.  A masculine man build a castle with thoughts of war in mind.  A masculine man builds an empire for the continuing of generations.  A masculine man will stand firm in the face of any adversary – no matter who the adversary may be.

Against The Current

A little story I’d like to reference:

http://aopinionatedman.com/2014/04/17/you-are-a-poor-writer/

 

What should you do?  Who should you be?  Why are you asking me?  A man decides for himself what he will do and who he will be.  He is not enslaved to another’s puny imagination.

The masculine man has the strength and determination to make choices and decisions on his own, for himself.  He also has the commitment to follow through with those choices and decisions.

The way of the masculine man is a powerful one.

Leadership and Dominion

I want to write on the topic brought up in this post.

According to the author, it is control that makes a man.  I disagree.  Control of one’s self is a good demonstration of maturity, but leadership is a characteristic of a man.

In Genesis 1, God gave earth into man’s hands to subdue and have dominion over.  Woman is made as a help meet, or aid, for man in Genesis 2.  Leadership is not a feminine trait.

A man travels through life as a leader.  Being a leader requires followers, but being as a leader does not.  To live as a leader requires study and self-discipline.

“Study to shew thyself approved unto God, a workman that needeth not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth.”  — 2 Timothy 2:15

Always forward

I’ll start with a good post from Sunshine Mary:

http://sunshinemaryandthedragon.wordpress.com/2013/12/20/the-queer-thing-about-bullies/

And a scripture:

I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus.  [Philippians 3:14]

You can’t run backward as fast as you can run forward; and you can’t pull as strongly as you can push.  When Paul speaks to the Ephesians about putting on the armor of God, he does not mention anything about the back – no back plate.  Going straight to the other side of a river will get you there faster than following the current.  A battle is ended quickest by marching forward.  It is hard to stand against a raging current, but it is even harder to stop after a slip.  Time only flows in one direction.

The masculine man apologizes for his mistakes and corrects his errors; however, he does not retreat or back down or withdraw.  If he has been going in the wrong direction, he only changes his course.  In Chinese martial arts, there is a concept called “absorbing the blow”.  It is a technique of allowing a strike to enter and then absorbing it in order to draw in an opponent for a decisive counter strike.

Moving forward is the only way for a man to grow, to become strong, to succeed, to conquer, to be masculine.

The masculine man is intellectual

The masculine man may feel things – anger, rage, possession, rejection – but his decisions are based on intellectual logic.  While a man can allow his emotions to affect his decisions, the decisions he makes are ultimately a result of an intellectual choice.

Because the masculine man makes his decisions independent of outside influences, deceiving him is nearly impossible (1 Timothy 2:14).  The strength of a masculine man does not come from muscles, although this is a positive attribute, it comes from his mind.  The ability to make a decision without being affected by the environment he is in and the commitment with which he holds to his decision is the demonstration of his strength.

The masculine man has the same mental characteristics of a trailblazer; a man will always have to make decisions and be responsible for those decisions.

 

Some reference material:
http://heartiste.wordpress.com/2013/12/03/male-and-female-brains-are-wired-differently-alert-the-feminists/
http://girlsbeinggirls.wordpress.com/2013/12/11/its-not-personal-how-men-think-differently-than-women/

The path of the masculine man

As the Bible teaches that God’s children are in the world but not of the world(John 15:19; John 17:13-16), so too is the masculine man a man but not any man.  The masculine man chooses his path and is careful when others walk with him so that he is not drawn from his way and enslaved by another’s bonds.
Whether he leads, follows, partners, or separates, he chooses each and every step he makes.  If he does make a wrong turn or stumbles over something in his way, he corrects the mistake and learns from it.  The masculine man does not see the insurmountable obstacle as an insurmountable obstacle but as an opportunity to become stronger and more powerful.
The unmasculine man does not not attempt to overcome an obstacle that is too tough for him at that moment.  He does not gain strength from the obstacle or by other means.  An unmasculine man does not follow the best path, or even the good path, but the path easiest to travel.
Robert Frost (1874–1963).  Mountain Interval.  1920.  The Road Not Taken
However, a masculine man also avoids paths paths that are dangerous.  The dangerous path is slippery and precarious.
The masculine man must be strongest against not those who would lead wrong or leave him but those who would stay – that they would divert his direction by continual persuasion.